Someone Please tell me that my son will outgrow this stage!!! He absolutely adores a kid at school, who just encourages this behaviour. He carries this kids stuff, lets him play with whatever he wants, follows all his 'orders' and worries constantly that he is going to be 'fired' from this kids club. ARGH! This kid is a fine kid. It drives me crazy that my kid is getting into trouble, trying to show off for the approval of this kid!!!
I accidentally on purpose said to my kid that he shouldn't be friends with kids that treat him that way, while the kid was in hearing, however I didn't mean for his mother to hear it, as there was more to the story then just that comment. AND I didn't mean to imply that this kid was part of the actual problem, ultimately the problem is that my kid won't stand up for himself. Anyway I recognize that that was a mistake and I went to apologize to her today... however obviously I had touched a nerve, and she told me that she had been discussing it with other people and that I should have come to her if it involved her kid.. which if it directly involved her kid I might, but it doesn't. He doesn't have to change, it has nothing to do with him, and everything to do with mine being assertive. Plus I don't really appreciate having been the topic of discussion all weekend, but I do understand why.
So anyway I feel bad that I made her question her kid, I feel bad that she was worried enough to discuss it with other people. I think she felt that I had attacked her kid, and I didn't mean to at all. I did apologize but left the conversation unfinished because we were interrupted by kids. I hope that it was just that we were both uncomfortable, and that she did hear the apology and won't be worried about it too much anymore.
And I will try and have my kid understand that friends maybe shouldn't treat each other that way, and if he gets 'fired' its not the end of the world.
